How Do I Forgive My Ex?
How Do I Forgive My Ex?
How Do I Forgive My Ex?
Last week I posted pieces of a message I spoke called "Defining Forgiveness: What it Is. What It's Not". The message is a part of a larger series on Restoring Broken Relationships that I'm giving at my church.
I’m glad to hear back that the messages are having an impact.
In the coming week I will share pieces of a new message on How to Forgive. But to start I want to share parts of an email sent to me last week from a woman who was able to forgive her ex-husband. I hope it encourages you if you are in a similar situation.
How I Forgave My Ex
I am so amazed by how prayers are answered. I have been asking God to bring someone or something into my life to show me signs or give me direction. I was stuck in the mud; I had only healed to a certain point and leveled off. It wasn't enough, so I prayed for more direction.
I listened to your message last night about forgiveness. Every word of this hit home with me on such a deep level.
Your definition of what forgiveness is, but more so, the definition of what it is NOT, was so meaningful. In fact, I had such a feeling of peace. I understand now what forgiveness is and how it relates to God, and that was such a missing link for me.
I realized today that I wasn't angry anymore. I thought before that in order to let go of the anger, I had to trust my ex, or excuse what he did.
I can’t trust him, but I can choose not to remember like God wrote in the Old Testament. I can allow him to build trust. I can let go of the anger and feel peace.
It's over. It's all in the past. I realized that if I want to move forward and excel in life, this anger has got to go. So I let it go and God has helped me do it.
My shoulders feel relaxed! I know it will be a continuous process and through prayer I am achieving the strength I need. My ex was here tonight to pick up the kids and I told him about this. I told him that I forgive him. It was a powerful moment.
I am eager to move on with my life. I understand it’s a process, but I made a huge leap out of the mud I was stuck in. I wanted you to know that. I feel fantastic!
The grace of God has left me at a loss for words.
It was great to read this. I hope to read many more like it!
The next few posts will outline a process for you to help you forgive and find the forgiveness that this woman found.
Please share these posts with people who are struggling to forgive.
You can learn more about forgiveness in STUCK…how to overcome anger and reclaim your life.
Question: Do you have a story of forgiveness? What was the tipping point that enabled you to forgive?
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